Dr phil dating a married man
No matter what the man has told you about the state of his marriage or his wife's behavior, your presence is threatening their relationship.
You are attacking their family unit, Mc Graw warns.
And don't ever kid yourself on this important point: He is still having sex with his wife, no matter what you may want to believe. Legally, financially and emotionally, you have no claim.
You may realize that you have no claim legally or financially, but you would think there'd be an emotional attachment or bond between you and your lover.
You need to step back and identify the priorities -- your priorities -- in a relationship with a married man. Ensuring you have a life distinct from his that is your safe haven can make being the other woman, if not a secure, permanent position, at least one that is a bit more tolerable.
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You need to have a life that works and that is full enough to withstand the pain of the eventual breakup. A solid circle of friends and a social life separate from your hidden life with him is a necessity.
Let your friends know that you still want to go out with them regularly.
Don't always be so ready to cancel plans you have made with others to accommodate him. It allows you to see yourself through the eyes of another man who finds you interesting and attractive. It helps to remember that the man with whom you are intimately involved in "your other life" is not living as a monk with his wife.
If you think you are his soulmate, you may be deluding yourself.
If you were true soulmates, consider whether he would be content to keep you as the "other woman." Everything the man tells you should be taken with a grain of salt, Mc Graw advises.
By making the decision to leave a married man, you've already done the hardest part.